Despite the fact that Mel Gibson made a movie about it, men still for
the most part don’t know what women want. You think you might be doing
the right things to appeal yourself to women, but are you really? It’s
the little things that will make you more attractive. You don’t need to
fly a private jet or own an NBA team, although that has shown to help
tremendously.
Instead, the hottest women are attracted to solid personality traits. It also helps if you know which talking points to bring up in conversation, and which ones to avoid. Even the best looking guys can fall into the trap of boring conversations, which usually ends any chance at a relationship. If you just flat out are not an interesting person, there are still some other things you can do to make up for it.
So what exactly should you be doing right now that will make you more attractive to women? We came up with 20 tips that are sure to bring you a connection with the women you are seeking the most. Now, a little disclaimer, not every girl finds all of these things attractive. Nobody has identical preferences in a man, but this should help you out with the majority. So here are the 20 things you can do.
Women
love a sharp dressed man, it has been said a million times. Another
thing that has been said a million times is “dress for the job you want,
not the job you have.” Apply that same thinking to women, but drop the
“not the woman you have” part, that would be a bit slimy.
You don’t have to wear a business suit wherever you go, although it did work for Barney Stinson on “How I Met Your Mother”. Get some fashion advice from friends, the internet, people who work at the mall— wherever you can get it. We even provide fashion tips for you on this site, so that’s a great place to start! You can still wear whatever you want when you’re sitting at home.
Part of the primal instinct is for women to naturally be attracted to the alpha dog. There are ways in which you can still be the alpha dog without barking at everyone you see. Being nice doesn’t mean being a pushover, it just shows that you aren’t a jerk. Now there are plenty of guys out there that are nice at all times, but still can’t find a date— don’t worry! There are still 18 more things you can do.
Don’t be rude to people, and remember to use your please and thank you’s. It’s not only attractive to women, but you should probably just be doing it anyway. You hate it when people are rude to you, right?
Everyone likes the person that can take a joke. Guys, there are a lot of sarcastic women out there that are very attractive, so there’s a chance you could be on the end of a joke. Being able to laugh it off or fire one back quickly shows you aren’t too serious and have good wit.
What’s the one thing every woman’s dating profile online says? She wants a guy with a sense of humor. If you can watch an entire comedy movie without laughing once, you’re going to look like a stiff who nobody wants to be around.
We all have emotions, it’s what separates us from the animals. The focal point here is to not be emotional all the time. Think of that guy you work with who is always stressing out because he’s just too busy. Everyone else is just as busy, guy!
Now if a family member passes away, a super sad movie comes on, or you see the Grand Canyon in person for the first time, then you can let the tears flow. Don’t cry because you have a flat tire, though. You should know how to change one by now.
Ask just about any woman in the world and she will say that the sexiest thing in a man is confidence. She wants a man with a sense of humor, but confidence is the sexier factor. Having the ability to walk up to any Tom, Dick or Harry and start a conversation establishes that you are indeed the alpha dog, while being nice at the same time. A win-win.
Speak loudly, too. Women don’t like a guy that mumbles or has a really weak tone in his voice. Just don’t puff out your chest and yell, though, people might be a little weirded out if you do that. Just be yourself and like yourself, that will get your confidence across.
One thing that women love to talk about is their work. One thing that women don’t like to hear about is your work. Unless you are a globetrotting news reporter, then your work isn’t going to be all that interesting to a woman you just met. She doesn’t care about your record for most TPS reports in a week.
Again, there is a list of jobs that you can talk about that she will like and make you look more interesting. These jobs include veterinarian, doctor, lawyer, pilot, athlete— basically anything that you think is interesting, too. Engineering is not a good conversation piece unless that’s what she does too.
Talking about your family in a long term relationship or a marriage is fine. However, you are looking to attract women that you don’t know yet. So don’t bring up the fact that your brother is in jail or your parents are still fighting for custody of you even though you’re 22 years old.
When a woman hears about your family’s issues right away, she’s going to think you have mental problems. She will also want to know what your family life is going to mean for you in the long term and will probably run away. Even if your family has no issues, keep the family talk to a minimum at first.
Until the ‘girlfriend’ and ‘boyfriend’ tags get thrown around, don’t pester everyone you know about your new girl. You can keep it in your circle of tightest buddies, but avoid posting on Facebook about this “super cool girl you just met” and how “she could be the one!”
Not only will that look super creepy, but it will show her that you fall way too fast for women. Don’t even tell your parents until it looks like she is going to be around for the long haul. If you tell them about every girl you meet, you might just seem like a revolving door of women. Privacy is key at first.
We’re more than a decade deep into the new millennium guys, we have to learn to cook at some point. If this were the 1950’s, it wouldn’t be such a big deal since misogyny was all the rage back then. Now, women love a man that knows how to cook. It doesn’t mean that either of you have to cook every single night, but you should know how to.
The bigger the better, too. Anyone can make grilled chicken or a salad. What really looks cool to women is when you can smoke an entire rack of ribs to perfection. That smell will stay on you for days and it’s better than any cologne you can buy at the stores. It’s also oh so manly.
Imagine you put on your best outfit and every part of your face is on point that day, but you still didn’t get a single compliment. It hurts, doesn’t it? While men don’t care if they don’t receive compliments when dressed down to shorts and a t-shirt, women really do.
If she’s wearing no makeup and sweatpants with a ponytail, you should still throw a compliment her way— tell her she looks nice. Don’t try this on someone you have just met, though, it can come off as a little creepy. In a relationship, no matter how long it has been going on, compliments are always gold and you get major brownie points.
Women are starting to love long hair again. It seems to be a cyclical trend that is back in style now. If you don’t have the ability to grow long hair, then don’t try it. If you can, then women will love it. There’s something about being able to run your hands through long hair that gets people going.
There are some caveats to long hair. It’s unlikely that you will be able to get a job in an office if you have the hair of a pro wrestler. Double bonus points if you can have long hair while maintaining a solid job.
Fitness and showing the dedication to remain fit is something that will go a long way in meeting women. If you are lazy and never workout, then there are a ton of good looking women that will automatically write you off. But you don’t have to be Arnold Schwarzenegger, either.
As long as you are staying in shape, you can attract a lot of women. They prefer a toned look, maybe a little on the buff side. Having muscles that make you unable to fit through a normal doorway isn’t really a turn on, though. Women want to date David Beckham, not the Incredible Hulk.
Scent is one of the most attractive or unattractive features that someone can have. Even Bradley Cooper couldn’t get an acting gig if he smelled like B.O. and Axe body spray, nobody would want to work with him. Even when you are at home and wearing nothing but basketball shorts, you want to smell good.
Fresh breath, a good deodorant and showering everyday will take care of this. There are only a few colognes that don’t smell cheap and terrible, so make sure you are using the right one. And for the love of God, don’t use too much of it. Too much cologne will sting the nostrils and you can’t get it out of your sinuses.
We talked about staying in shape, and building a solid body of muscle requires that you eat quite a bit. However, those that aren’t lifting weights will want to avoid pigging out most of the time. Stuffing your face not only makes you look like a slob, but it is also a red flag to a woman that you’re going to be not so slim in the future.
You can still eat all of the foods you like, but not every meal has to be a buffet. Unless you’re dealing with a competitive eating groupie, women don’t particularly find themselves attracted to constant overeaters. Seriously, though, there are competitive eating groupies out there.
Women do like the long hair that we were talking about, but the hippie culture of the 1960′s did leave some things behind. Body hair used to be all the rage back then for both men and women, but we have gone to a clean shaven society.
Massive amounts of chest hair and back hair is more reserved for cavemen, and we’ve evolved to the point where you can get rid of it, so do it! Making yourself look like Michael Phelps might be overdoing it a little bit (you don’t need to shave your legs, too).
Most women like parties and having a few drinks every now and then, even as they get older. Once you leave college, the amount of times you party should drop almost instantly. If you are still drinking Natty Light six nights a week, then that’s going to be a huge turn off. At that point, you’ll seem like an alcoholic and that’s not where you want to be in life right now.
If you need help cutting back on the drinks, there is plenty of help offered. Women you meet at the bar aren’t likely to be the ones that you find a long-term relationship with, anyway, so don’t spend all of your time there. You’ll end up being the creepy guy that sits there by himself on Tuesday afternoons.
This one can get you into a sticky situation pretty fast— if you meet a girl that you didn’t know was an absolute freak. If a woman asks you if you’re up for anything at first, you should probably say yes. It’s a great way to explore new bedrooms, especially if you haven’t seen one besides your own in a while.
It’s never too late to pack up your clothes and run out of there as fast as you can if you’re into the weirder side of the kinky spectrum. That is, unless you are handcuffed to the bed. Let’s hope that you remembered the safe word. If going straight to the bed isn’t how you want to meet women, then skip this step!
We touched on this much earlier in the list, and again, it doesn’t mean that you need to wear a tuxedo in your sleep. What is means is that even in the down times where you are just sitting around the house, don’t wear a stained white t-shirt. It just looks gross and really trashy to women.
Spending $100 on sweatpants is also a dumb idea, but there are some nicer ones that you can get than the ones that you find at Walmart for $3. Days off of work do not mean days off of trying to impress women, so follow the fashion guide one weekends. Leave the white socks in the drawer, too. As a matter of fact, throw them out!
Showing aggressiveness toward people is a sign that you can be an absolute jerk. Blowing up at people in public is a sure sign that no girl is going to want to talk to you. Arguments and fights for no reason just aren’t attractive at all. There are guys that walk around looking for a fight at bars and other places— don’t be this guy.
Does that guy always seem to have a girlfriend for some reason? Yes, but that type of girl is not the one you want to attract. The girl you are looking for doesn’t want a guy whose catchphrase is “You wanna do something about it?” She’s usually the one watching the fight from a long distance, people watching with her is a solid icebreaker.
By no means should you put a blindfold on, spin around in a circle with your finger pointed and try to pick up the first girl you land on. What you should realize, is that you aren’t going to get Jessica Alba on the first try. Picking up a beautiful woman requires a lot of practice with talking and social interaction in general.
If you shoot for the 10’s, you’re just going to be disappointed. 10’s only date 10’s, which is showcased in Hollywood (not the movies, but the actual relationships with actors and actresses). Go with what you know, follow your gut and you will be fine. If you need any more advice, well we have plenty of it for you.
Instead, the hottest women are attracted to solid personality traits. It also helps if you know which talking points to bring up in conversation, and which ones to avoid. Even the best looking guys can fall into the trap of boring conversations, which usually ends any chance at a relationship. If you just flat out are not an interesting person, there are still some other things you can do to make up for it.
So what exactly should you be doing right now that will make you more attractive to women? We came up with 20 tips that are sure to bring you a connection with the women you are seeking the most. Now, a little disclaimer, not every girl finds all of these things attractive. Nobody has identical preferences in a man, but this should help you out with the majority. So here are the 20 things you can do.
Always Dress Like You’re Heading To Work
Women
love a sharp dressed man, it has been said a million times. Another
thing that has been said a million times is “dress for the job you want,
not the job you have.” Apply that same thinking to women, but drop the
“not the woman you have” part, that would be a bit slimy.You don’t have to wear a business suit wherever you go, although it did work for Barney Stinson on “How I Met Your Mother”. Get some fashion advice from friends, the internet, people who work at the mall— wherever you can get it. We even provide fashion tips for you on this site, so that’s a great place to start! You can still wear whatever you want when you’re sitting at home.
Be Nice To Everyone At All Times
Part of the primal instinct is for women to naturally be attracted to the alpha dog. There are ways in which you can still be the alpha dog without barking at everyone you see. Being nice doesn’t mean being a pushover, it just shows that you aren’t a jerk. Now there are plenty of guys out there that are nice at all times, but still can’t find a date— don’t worry! There are still 18 more things you can do.
Don’t be rude to people, and remember to use your please and thank you’s. It’s not only attractive to women, but you should probably just be doing it anyway. You hate it when people are rude to you, right?
Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
Everyone likes the person that can take a joke. Guys, there are a lot of sarcastic women out there that are very attractive, so there’s a chance you could be on the end of a joke. Being able to laugh it off or fire one back quickly shows you aren’t too serious and have good wit.
What’s the one thing every woman’s dating profile online says? She wants a guy with a sense of humor. If you can watch an entire comedy movie without laughing once, you’re going to look like a stiff who nobody wants to be around.
Don’t Be Overly Emotional
We all have emotions, it’s what separates us from the animals. The focal point here is to not be emotional all the time. Think of that guy you work with who is always stressing out because he’s just too busy. Everyone else is just as busy, guy!
Now if a family member passes away, a super sad movie comes on, or you see the Grand Canyon in person for the first time, then you can let the tears flow. Don’t cry because you have a flat tire, though. You should know how to change one by now.
Confidence, Confidence, Confidence
Ask just about any woman in the world and she will say that the sexiest thing in a man is confidence. She wants a man with a sense of humor, but confidence is the sexier factor. Having the ability to walk up to any Tom, Dick or Harry and start a conversation establishes that you are indeed the alpha dog, while being nice at the same time. A win-win.
Speak loudly, too. Women don’t like a guy that mumbles or has a really weak tone in his voice. Just don’t puff out your chest and yell, though, people might be a little weirded out if you do that. Just be yourself and like yourself, that will get your confidence across.
Don’t Talk About Work
One thing that women love to talk about is their work. One thing that women don’t like to hear about is your work. Unless you are a globetrotting news reporter, then your work isn’t going to be all that interesting to a woman you just met. She doesn’t care about your record for most TPS reports in a week.
Again, there is a list of jobs that you can talk about that she will like and make you look more interesting. These jobs include veterinarian, doctor, lawyer, pilot, athlete— basically anything that you think is interesting, too. Engineering is not a good conversation piece unless that’s what she does too.
Don’t Bring Up Your Family’s Issues
Talking about your family in a long term relationship or a marriage is fine. However, you are looking to attract women that you don’t know yet. So don’t bring up the fact that your brother is in jail or your parents are still fighting for custody of you even though you’re 22 years old.
When a woman hears about your family’s issues right away, she’s going to think you have mental problems. She will also want to know what your family life is going to mean for you in the long term and will probably run away. Even if your family has no issues, keep the family talk to a minimum at first.
Keep The Relationship Private
Until the ‘girlfriend’ and ‘boyfriend’ tags get thrown around, don’t pester everyone you know about your new girl. You can keep it in your circle of tightest buddies, but avoid posting on Facebook about this “super cool girl you just met” and how “she could be the one!”
Not only will that look super creepy, but it will show her that you fall way too fast for women. Don’t even tell your parents until it looks like she is going to be around for the long haul. If you tell them about every girl you meet, you might just seem like a revolving door of women. Privacy is key at first.
Learn How To Cook
We’re more than a decade deep into the new millennium guys, we have to learn to cook at some point. If this were the 1950’s, it wouldn’t be such a big deal since misogyny was all the rage back then. Now, women love a man that knows how to cook. It doesn’t mean that either of you have to cook every single night, but you should know how to.
The bigger the better, too. Anyone can make grilled chicken or a salad. What really looks cool to women is when you can smoke an entire rack of ribs to perfection. That smell will stay on you for days and it’s better than any cologne you can buy at the stores. It’s also oh so manly.
Keep Handing Out Compliments
Imagine you put on your best outfit and every part of your face is on point that day, but you still didn’t get a single compliment. It hurts, doesn’t it? While men don’t care if they don’t receive compliments when dressed down to shorts and a t-shirt, women really do.
If she’s wearing no makeup and sweatpants with a ponytail, you should still throw a compliment her way— tell her she looks nice. Don’t try this on someone you have just met, though, it can come off as a little creepy. In a relationship, no matter how long it has been going on, compliments are always gold and you get major brownie points.
Keep Your Hair Long
Women are starting to love long hair again. It seems to be a cyclical trend that is back in style now. If you don’t have the ability to grow long hair, then don’t try it. If you can, then women will love it. There’s something about being able to run your hands through long hair that gets people going.
There are some caveats to long hair. It’s unlikely that you will be able to get a job in an office if you have the hair of a pro wrestler. Double bonus points if you can have long hair while maintaining a solid job.
Hit The Gym But Don’t Body-Build
Fitness and showing the dedication to remain fit is something that will go a long way in meeting women. If you are lazy and never workout, then there are a ton of good looking women that will automatically write you off. But you don’t have to be Arnold Schwarzenegger, either.
As long as you are staying in shape, you can attract a lot of women. They prefer a toned look, maybe a little on the buff side. Having muscles that make you unable to fit through a normal doorway isn’t really a turn on, though. Women want to date David Beckham, not the Incredible Hulk.
Smell Nice 24/7
Scent is one of the most attractive or unattractive features that someone can have. Even Bradley Cooper couldn’t get an acting gig if he smelled like B.O. and Axe body spray, nobody would want to work with him. Even when you are at home and wearing nothing but basketball shorts, you want to smell good.
Fresh breath, a good deodorant and showering everyday will take care of this. There are only a few colognes that don’t smell cheap and terrible, so make sure you are using the right one. And for the love of God, don’t use too much of it. Too much cologne will sting the nostrils and you can’t get it out of your sinuses.
Don’t Overeat
We talked about staying in shape, and building a solid body of muscle requires that you eat quite a bit. However, those that aren’t lifting weights will want to avoid pigging out most of the time. Stuffing your face not only makes you look like a slob, but it is also a red flag to a woman that you’re going to be not so slim in the future.
You can still eat all of the foods you like, but not every meal has to be a buffet. Unless you’re dealing with a competitive eating groupie, women don’t particularly find themselves attracted to constant overeaters. Seriously, though, there are competitive eating groupies out there.
Keep Your Body Shaved
Women do like the long hair that we were talking about, but the hippie culture of the 1960′s did leave some things behind. Body hair used to be all the rage back then for both men and women, but we have gone to a clean shaven society.
Massive amounts of chest hair and back hair is more reserved for cavemen, and we’ve evolved to the point where you can get rid of it, so do it! Making yourself look like Michael Phelps might be overdoing it a little bit (you don’t need to shave your legs, too).
Don’t Drink All The Time
Most women like parties and having a few drinks every now and then, even as they get older. Once you leave college, the amount of times you party should drop almost instantly. If you are still drinking Natty Light six nights a week, then that’s going to be a huge turn off. At that point, you’ll seem like an alcoholic and that’s not where you want to be in life right now.
If you need help cutting back on the drinks, there is plenty of help offered. Women you meet at the bar aren’t likely to be the ones that you find a long-term relationship with, anyway, so don’t spend all of your time there. You’ll end up being the creepy guy that sits there by himself on Tuesday afternoons.
Have No Boundaries In Bed
This one can get you into a sticky situation pretty fast— if you meet a girl that you didn’t know was an absolute freak. If a woman asks you if you’re up for anything at first, you should probably say yes. It’s a great way to explore new bedrooms, especially if you haven’t seen one besides your own in a while.
It’s never too late to pack up your clothes and run out of there as fast as you can if you’re into the weirder side of the kinky spectrum. That is, unless you are handcuffed to the bed. Let’s hope that you remembered the safe word. If going straight to the bed isn’t how you want to meet women, then skip this step!
Make An Effort To Look Good At All Times
We touched on this much earlier in the list, and again, it doesn’t mean that you need to wear a tuxedo in your sleep. What is means is that even in the down times where you are just sitting around the house, don’t wear a stained white t-shirt. It just looks gross and really trashy to women.
Spending $100 on sweatpants is also a dumb idea, but there are some nicer ones that you can get than the ones that you find at Walmart for $3. Days off of work do not mean days off of trying to impress women, so follow the fashion guide one weekends. Leave the white socks in the drawer, too. As a matter of fact, throw them out!
Don’t Blow Up In Anyone’s Face
Showing aggressiveness toward people is a sign that you can be an absolute jerk. Blowing up at people in public is a sure sign that no girl is going to want to talk to you. Arguments and fights for no reason just aren’t attractive at all. There are guys that walk around looking for a fight at bars and other places— don’t be this guy.
Does that guy always seem to have a girlfriend for some reason? Yes, but that type of girl is not the one you want to attract. The girl you are looking for doesn’t want a guy whose catchphrase is “You wanna do something about it?” She’s usually the one watching the fight from a long distance, people watching with her is a solid icebreaker.
Lower Your Standards
By no means should you put a blindfold on, spin around in a circle with your finger pointed and try to pick up the first girl you land on. What you should realize, is that you aren’t going to get Jessica Alba on the first try. Picking up a beautiful woman requires a lot of practice with talking and social interaction in general.
If you shoot for the 10’s, you’re just going to be disappointed. 10’s only date 10’s, which is showcased in Hollywood (not the movies, but the actual relationships with actors and actresses). Go with what you know, follow your gut and you will be fine. If you need any more advice, well we have plenty of it for you.
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